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How we can help?

When your baby dies you are suddenly faced with having to make decisions you never expected to have to make. We are here to offer you support and help right now, and in the weeks and months ahead. 

When your baby dies you may feel that your lives have fallen apart. Parents tell us that they have never felt so alone and isolated and just didn’t know what to do or where to turn In those very early days and weeks. Feileacain is there to support you and help you to cope with your loss.

Parents have told us how important memories of this time are, and many hospitals will have a Feileacain Memory Box for you to safeguard your baby’s foot or hand prints, as well as suggestions on how to take photographs if this is what you would like to do. You may need time to think about what is right for you, and the health care staff looking after you are there to talk through the options and to help you reach your own decisions. Feileacain is there too.

  • There are choices you can make about what happens to your baby and to you in the early hours and days after your baby’s death. These are very personal decisions but we can suggest what possibilities there are and tell you what other parents have chosen to do.
  • There are some things that you may have to do, including registering your baby’s death and deciding about a funeral and post mortem. We can help you with information about what options there are and where to go for more help.
  • You may want to talk to someone who can listen to how you feel or can help you think through what you want to do. You may find it helpful to read about other people’s experiences and the different choices they made.